TROLL LOVE

For a mom of two girls, I came a little late to the Frozen scene. It took a couple months of their friends' Frozen-chatter and several youtube videos of Olaf to  even interest my rather anti-princess-movie daughters. When we finally did see the film, however, they were entranced.

I'm a little more on the fence about Frozen, especially now that princess-prentending is beginning to sprinkle their playtime. (Stop growing up, girlies. Seriously.)

But today I want to write about something I did love about the film, and it's probably not what you are expecting me to say:

The troll musical number!

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(Here's a youtube link to someone's upload of the song...is that illegal?)

So in the song, these mossy rocks come alive and start singing about the ways in which the character Kristoff could make a great "fixer-upper" for Princess Ana.
Why are you holding back from such a man?
Is it the clumpy way he walks?
Or the grumpy way he talks?
Or the square-shape, pear-shaped weirdness of his feet?
.....
So he's a bit of a fixer-upper, but we know what to do.
The way to fix up this fixer-upper is to fix him up with you.


Weird, frankly, plus the whole "fixer-upper" concept is a silly view of love and marriage that I don't subscribe to.

But half-way though, the song takes a surprising turn, and I can't stop thinking about it:
We aren't saying you can change him, 'cause people don't really change.
We're only saying that love's a force that's powerful and strange.
People make bad choices if they're mad or scared or stressed,
But throw a little love their way, and you'll bring out their best.  
True love brings out the best!
Everyone's a bit of a fixer-upper, that's what it's all about.
Father, sister, brother; we need each other
To raise us up and round us out. 
Everyone's a bit of a fixer upper, but when push comes to shove,
The only fixer-upper fixer that can fix a fixer-upper is
True, true, true, true love.
What at first seemed like a random talking-rocks love song thrown in the middle of the movie, ended up delivering, to me, the most important theme of Frozen. In fact, I don't think this song is even about Kristoff and Ana. It's about Ana and Elsa.
People make bad choices if they're mad or scared or stressed,
But throw a little love their way, and you'll bring out their best.
Ana needed love; she was hurt and lonely after years of isolation and looking for that love from the wrong source. Elsa, too, needed love; she was afraid and lonely after years of isolation and going through a "no right, no wrong, no rules for me" stage (to quote from Elsa's Let It Go song-monologue...songologue?)

In the end [semi-spoiler-alert!!], the only thing that could save the princesses and their kingdom was their sisterly love for each other. What a refreshing concept, Disney! And I don't think it applies only to animated princesses.

True story: When Brian married me over six years ago, I had some poor communication habits and unhealthy relationship beliefs that might have caused a lifetime of strife and hurt for him. Instead, as he has just loved me, loved me, and loved me some more, those weaknesses (that I sure hope aren't really "me" anyway) have started to become real strengths in our relationship.

Now I certainly didn't have the insight or strength to make those changes on my own  so I can personally attest to the "powerful" force that Brian's love is, and chalk my improvements up to that and the grace of God. I still have a long way to go before I am my "best," but I have the great blessing of a family and Savior that always love me as I muddle along that road.
Father, sister, brother; we need each other
To raise us up and round us out.
Ya, I think the trolls have converted me to the "fixer-upper" view of love after all: that is, we are all fixer-uppers and love--true love--really is the only fixer-upper fixer that can fix a fixer-upper.
That's what it's all about.

3 comments:

Adrienne Jessup said...

I love this! So true! When I first listened to the song (before seeing the movie)I thought it was all about the vain things of a relationship. When I actually watched the movie it became a favorite instantly! I love how the theme was sisterly love (at least that's what hit me) more than romantic love.
Thanks for writing amazing blog posts! I always feel better about myself and life after reading them!

Rui Zeller said...

Steph, first of all, I am so glad that you still blog because a lot of my friends have stopped. Second of all, I love what you write, and third, I love this post. It was kind of timely for me. I've been struggling with some relationship(s) and I needed this message! Thank you!

Stephanie • My Orange Chair said...

Thank you so much Adrienne and Rui. Glad you stop by here and glad you can relate to the post and so glad you let me know! Thanks again.